5/18/2021

Service dog fundraising update

 Hi everyone! Here is my fundraising update. I thought I would post it here in addition to Instagram. We are at $2,720! This puts me just over halfway to the cost of a dog from Cares in Kansas. The total that I need to raise is around $8,000. 

This is for the dog at $5,000, miscellaneous dog related expenses around $500. We have to go from Virginia to Kansas for a week for what is essentially for a doggie boot camp. This is where I learn how to work together with my new service dog. Traveling there means 3 nights out getting there and possibly four nights coming back. We have no way of knowing how well the dog will travel until we receive the fluffy bundle of joy.

We plan to take the travel trailer. That should eliminate lodging expenses on the way to and from (unless we come across a bad storm or something very unusual). I had thought that would mean we could fix meals instead of eating out. Unfortunately, eating out daily with the dog is required as part of the training. So, that's a few more expenses.

I want to thank you all for your help so far. I am working on some other fundraisers. Plus, I have the Amazon affiliate link. It earns a tiny commission whenever someone makes a purchase through my specific link. This doesn't add anything to the cost of whatever you're buying. It can be a good way to support me for free if you buy on Amazon anyway. 

Donations can also be sent directly to the organization in Kansas. Make sure you put my name in the subject line. It has to be designated or you are donation will likely go into a general fund.

Thank you again so much for your help. I really appreciate everything that you're doing! Your support has been invaluable financially and emotionally. It's impossible to thank you enough.


This is a picture of me with my service dog who passed away. It gives you an idea of one of the things that he did for me. He was alive changing sweetheart. I'm sure the teacher service dog will be too.




3/21/2021

Dealing with service dog loss

This post is about dealing with service dog loss on the emotional level. Its isn't about fundraising for another service dog as that's a whole different kettle of fish. I'm writing this to hopefully help other service dog handlers with frief and to reassure. It's okay to be sad and it's okay to allow yourself time to grieve.

It's been a little over a year since my service dog  passed away and I still miss him. Even though Cares, Inc. in Kansas approved my application for another service dog, there's really no replacing Tomlin in my heart.

Losing a service dog isn't like losing a pet. The bond is deeper and the loss more acute. For me, it's really been like losing a best friend and family member all in one. For over a dozen years Tomlin was there to help whenever I needed him. He would come dashing in whenever I dropped my medicine without being called. He knew I'd need help and he knew he'd get a treat or playtime out of the deal. I chuckle now when I think of him waiting expectantly for his reward. 

It's been awhile getting to this point though. But that's okay. Grief is normal and natural. There's no magic end point. It's a process and like any process healing takes time.

If you are grieving the loss of a service dog, I hope you can give yourself time to go through the process. 

Some things that can make the process easier are

Talk with someone. This may be a professional, a friend or a pastor. 

Give yourself space and permission to grieve.

Donate to a shelter. Knowing you're helping others can help you feel better. I came out from the shelter feeling much better than I went in. Others have said this to me also.

If want to have a memorial service, have a memorial service. A pastor can help with this. No, they won't think it's odd at all. Chances are pretty good that they've helped with this before. If not, they've likely lost a pet and can relate.

There are probably other ideas. Please share below about what you did that helped you through the grief process. By doing so, we can learn from each other and walk this path together - just as our furry beloved would want us to. 




8/18/2020

Moving tips to help you have a successful move

 Published July 2, 2019 by YBR Editor Gayle Crabtree (From when I owned the domain).

These moving tips to help you have a successful move were employed in my latest relocation. After eight years in the same home, my husband’s company decided to move us to another part of the state. We started contacting moving companies after the shock wore off. No way did I want to move!  You know how companies are. They don't ask. They decide.

We pulled out some of the tips for moving that we’ve used in the past. They made the move much simpler. I’ll type a few more in below.

moving tips

Evaluate your assets

  • The first thing you need to do if being relocated is look at your assets. I’m talking about making a written list of everything from paydays to people. It makes relocating much less stressful after you see where you stand.

Don’t buy boxes

  • Buying them will put a hole in your pocketbook. Using free boxes will help you save money on a move and recycle at the same time. We talked to Walmart, dollar stores, grocery and liquor stores and a couple of gas stations. Friends brought us boxes from work. It all helped us save money and was better for the environment.

Contact several movers

  • The prices quoted varied. One wanted over $5,500 to relocate our furniture while two others were in the $3,000 range. A couple of companies were only interested in giving us an internet quote. We nixed them and also the one that stood us up. Boundless Moving and Storage did the job and did it well. So, my big recommendation is to hire good help!
  • This is where looking at all your assets come into play. The advantage of a corporate relocation is that they pay for it. A DIY move is usually less expensive but more stressful. Don’t be shy about bartering. Ask friends to help in exchange for helping them when they need help.

Cleaning

  • If you have advance notice, start socking a few dollars back each week. Contact a cleaning company to see what they’ll charge. If you have a friend that might help make her or him an offer. Just say, “I have $50 bucks. Can you help me clean?” So far, I’ve not been turned down. The extra hands to help clean up after a move are a godsend.

Food

  • Meal costs add up fast when you’re eating out more often. One of the best moving tips is to save the coupons that you can. Look for deals on pizzas and drive-thru ordering. I was thrilled to find out that my Straight Talk Wireless rewards offers promo codes for restaurants and other companies.

These are a few moving tips to help you have a successful move. Check out my video through the link above for more ideas that can make your relocation a little smoother.

One more thing…
Treat yourself after the work is done. Go to a park, movie or take a day trip. After all the boxes are unpacked, you deserve to  have a nice relaxing day.

You got this!